7 Benefits of Traveling Without Your Child
I never thought I would dare leave home without my son. I mean I was able to go to the grocery or market alone, but this time’s different. I have to go to Davao for an event and my son can’t come with me because his airfare is on full price already because he’s turned 2. I never thought about the benefits of traveling without your child, until recently.
I was scared and excited at the same time. Scared – even when I know he’ll be fine and will be taken care of. Excited – because I can finally have the chance to travel alone. A lot of moms do it and claims they became a nicer person when they get back.
I never thought I could do it so I stepped outside my comfort zone and took the risk. I planned it, talked to my partner, prepared all the things he might possibly need and gave it a go. I know it will be very beneficial for me so I tried.
I was so happy I did it because fortunately, it brought me more good.
Here are the benefits of a solo trip:
You will experience longer sleep for once in your life.
When I became a mom, I felt like I’m exhausted forever. The tiredness and sleepiness made me a zombie and drank as much coffee as I could. I know coffee would be bad for me (hormones and shz) but it’s my only way to stay awake. So when I arrived at Davao, I had my longest sleep in my entire motherhood. It felt really great and I knew I needed it. When we’re home with kids, we barely get 4-6 hours of sleep. It makes us cranky and irritable. Take the chance to rest and recharge your energy.
You’ll be able to explore yourself.
This is the time where you rediscover your goals and have a clearer picture of who you are. Does motherhood really bring joy to you? Or it isn’t as fulfilling as you thought it would be? Well, since you traveled alone and you had better sleep plus a more peaceful environment (less the screaming and crying), you’d be able to finally give a more defined picture of what you want, or who you wanted to be. It allows you to plan your life beyond just motherhood, thus giving purpose into your life.
Youll be able to be the person you once were (pre-baby).
Use the opportunity to meet with friends without yelling a kids name. I took this time to go out with my friends that I haven’t met for a long time. In my case, I had my week long vacation at Davao City – my hometown so I grabbed the opportunity to meet up with my best friend and some college friends and pour a drink or two.
One of the things I loved about traveling ng alone is I finally get the chance to roam around the mall and swatch all those lipsticks without a kid trying to get his hands off of you. I’ve always believed that shopping is therapeutic but with a kid? That’s really not the case sometimes. So if you get the chance to travel solo, you get the opportunity to go shopping in peace.
Teaches your child a little autonomy.
One great benefit of traveling solo is giving your son more autonomy. It allows him to still do things even without “mom.” It teaches him that even when “mom” is away, he’s gonna be fine. It also gives him/her a chance to bond with his father/caregiver. Some kids cling a lot, like mine. So when I left him with his dad, he knows someone is there for him aside from “mom.”
Your love for your child grows fonder.
When we’re always with our child, we get annoyed easily but when afar, we miss our kid more thus our love grows. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and stronger.
While I was in Davao, I thought of the blessing of my time away but it was then I realized that I am so blessed to spend a lot of time with my son – more cuddles and witnessing his firsts.
Lastly, you’ll finally get the chance to have a decent meal in a fancy restaurant without screaming at a little person. Imagine ordering your delectable food and enjoying every single bit of it peacefully. How awesome would that be?
It may be hard if you haven’t done it before. It was my first time too. But when I decided to step outside my comfort zone, it went really well for me and for my son. I am really thankful for my partner and his family for making my trip possible. I know not everyone can have family help in handy or finding a good babysitter (hard and scary), but I hope that you can find a way to make it happen.
So book the trip you’ve been planning for so long and call your friends for a go.
And if you had tried leaving your child for travel, how did it go? I’d love to hear in the comments below.
With Love, From Sza